Restless Ramblings

Why this buzz about forties?

As teenagers, we always used to hear women around us saying : “40s is so liberating”.

Honestly, I never understood, why and how, can an age where we are exhausted physically and mentally, be liberating as compared to our teens or maybe our twenties. Now, when I am in my forties, I can very firmly say that this statement is indeed true.

Forties is an age where you feel liberated, in little ways.

How is it liberating ?

This is a point in your life, where you have seen a lot. The highs, lows, success, failures, praise, criticism (more than praise honestly) , family struggles, career struggles , so on and so forth. You feel exhausted and thus, the only thing you now tend to focus on, is your evolution. You don’t have the urge to explain yourself now. You can be content with what people think of you. You don’t have to mince your words and suffocate yourself.

You focus more on things that make you feel happy and alive again. You focus on people who give you that much needed peace in life. You feel light, you feel free, you evolve more and worry less, you know where to draw boundaries and focus on things that help you connect to yourselves in a much better way.

Is it true for all ?

Some people are self aware and evolved forever, I mean right from the beginning. But most of us are so engrossed in daily turmoil of life, that we often tend to ignore ourselves. Therefore, once we are at this point of life, we decide to focus on ourselves, our evolution and our peace.

Having said that, a lot depends on your personal choice. Adapting is important for survival but evolving is a choice you make. You have to make a conscious choice of not living life on auto mode and actually “Focus where you focus”. And once you make that choice, the entire path appears in front of you. Quoting famous poet Rumi here : “What you seek is seeking you “.

Takeaway – 40s is magical !

In our teens and twenties, we seek validation from all. We think we are successful and happy only if we get validation from everyone. Forties break that myth for us. You feel at peace with yourself, you feel sufficient. You feel proud of all that you have done and geared up for living the way you want to.

Believe me, Forties is in fact LIBERATING.

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